What Amnon felt was nowhere near love. What he actually felt was an obsession. A lust of the body that demands to be given what it wants: urgently, here and now.

So in love, that he was tormented, sick, withering from day to day. And at the same time, so in love that, once the lust was fulfilled, “love” radically turned into hatred. Lust brings with it nothing but pain, shame, hatred, lying, immorality, disgust, revulsion and does not stand the test of time.

“You cannot command to the heart”, is the lie often used to excuse acts like Amnon’s. Others, however, say, “In the face of emotions, feelings, desires, there is nothing we can do.” Is that so? The good news is that God has given us the ability to restrain our bodies, to control our feelings and desires.

In Tamar's case, she was forced to have intercourse and this act we can call rape. Today, however, many boys and men admit that they know what to do and what to say so that a girl will willingly give herself to them. They'll say what the girl wants to hear. “You're the most beautiful! I love you! I can't live without you!”, are just a few of the phrases used to lure a girl. And if a bouquet of flowers or a gift is added to these expressions, success is guaranteed. But all these expressions and feelings disappear immediately after the moments of intimacy. Why is that? Because they were only traps to reach the desired goal.

Any girl must know that a boy who is truly in love and intends to marry her, will hardly make declarations of love like: “I love you!” and when he does, such a declaration will be accompanied by the fear of not being rejected. And normally such a statement is followed shortly by the marriage proposal. If this doesn't happen, then you have to ask yourself, if it's really about love.