Advice for dating
The Word of the Lord calls us to a holy and pure life, to an exemplary behaviour among the other believers, so whatever we do, even dating, must fit these requirements.
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Pray.
Start by asking the Lord in prayer to show you who the person He has set aside specifically for you is. Be patient and wait for the Lord's time. Marriage is a decision, which once made cannot be changed. Therefore, you must be sure that you have the Lord's blessing in this important area of life. At the same time, make prayer an activity when you're together. Pray for different matters, but also for the family you are about to start.
Seek the advice of your parents/pastor.
If there is one person you are interested in, seek the advice of your parents, pastor, or another spiritually mature person about a possible relationship between the two of you. Ask them if they think you're right. Often an outsider can see if a relationship is not suitable. Be ready to get honest answers and act according to the advice you receive.
Determine by mutual agreement the limits allowed in your relationship.
Discuss and choose to set some limits that will honour God and make your relationship an example for those around you. If you have determined that you must be home at 21:00, both of you make sure that this agreement in not broken, in order to have a clear conscience before God and one another.
Engage together in the work or activities of the church.
When you are involved in serving, you will discover each other’s character, aspirations and goals in life. You don't have to have the same food preferences or preferred holiday destinations. There may be two different dinner dishes in the family, but if one in the family wants to devote himself/herself to evangelism in Africa, and another wants to open a business in the UK, then there will certainly be problems. Get involved in the Lord's work and find out what the other person's calling is.
Get to know each other at meetings with the youth group.
Remove the veil of “love” from your eyes and try to discover the other person during youth meetings. Notice how they relate to those around you. How they react in stress or tensed situations. Even if they don’t behave like that with you at present, a time comes when you'll be treated the same. Look to see the qualities and shortcomings they have and ask yourself if you will be able to love that person with the qualities, but also with the flaws, that they have.
Make sure that the moments in 2 are spent in a visible place.
Even if you need to talk in private, make sure you do it somewhere where you can be seen, and especially in a place where you are not tempted to get too close physically. The desire to be as close to each other as possible is normal when your feelings grow, but do not allow the devil to lead you to the sin of sexual immorality. As great as the desire for privacy is, it's worth the wait.